Hubby's cousin lost her son in Iraq a few years ago. TJ was buried at Arlington, which is near their Maryland home. Last fall, his brothers were visiting his grave, quietly talking, when a couple men in suits came up and asked them to remove their hands from their pockets. This was in the days before Obama was making his decision on Afghanistan, and he was walking around Arlington. He came up to the boys and asked them about their brother - his unit, how he died, etc. Finally he asked if he could pray with them. He put his arms around the brothers and prayed.
Evidently, the decision about a surge in Afghanistand did not come easily for him.